Shelly is the real deal, folks: She’s a small, southern, blonde-haired bundle of intentionality and joy, and I love being around her. (I also love that we crossed over from her being a friend of the HBH to being a friend of my own). So delight Shelly’s words today, as she lives out the idea of BEing in the most intentional and natural of ways.
When my friend told me that she’s sitting with the word ‘be,’ I was so excited to share how I have been learning to do the same the past few years. I have been a habitual worrier of the past, future, and of things out of my control in the present. I started to realize how much I was missing in the moment. I was allowing my life to pass by without truly experiencing it.
It was after several conversations with a good friend about a specific fear in life that I realized I had to change my life because I could live kidnapped by the fears, worries, planning, what ifs, etc and miss daily life.
Even though I am writing on the topic of BEING, I think it’s important to note the word life. It is not a trivial word we should toss around and say lightly. Life – the joys, the actual breath from God, the miracle of birth, obstacles, laughter, relationships, love, people, nature, absence of death – Life. At times, I feel that we should capitalize the word, similar to God, because of how important the word is and the impact it is on us daily. Life. If we have respect for this word and treat it as the gift that it is, we can start to accept how to actually live, how to be.
I don’t want to sound like I’m preaching, this is as hard as any other task you may try to master. For me, connecting with my faith, not just relying on it, believing, connecting with faith and holding myself accountable to live in the moment. Three year, five year plans are great, but while you trying to craft that plan, what happened today? What did you possibly miss?
It was a secondary thought, but the realization did occur that I was disrespecting those around me by not being fully present. It’s like showing up to a party via Skype. You’re there in a form, but not fully present. I started living in the moments by fully using my senses. I started making eye contact with everyone I spoke to and came in near contact with. I was aware of sounds and those around me. I took time to listen to what people were saying.
I’m not against social media at all, but I don’t participate in it. I like connecting with people, ideally in person, second favorite via phone, then over email. I’m not concise (although I try) and I love to hear people’s experiences that I feel you can’t get from Facebook, etc. I am aware that I miss a lot of what’s going on, particularly pictures, but I make an extra effort to be a part of my friend’s lives.
I still believe in cards, notes – I probably help employ a USPS employee! Again, I try to use all my senses to experiences people. Yes, it takes time, but what are we here for if it’s not to connect with others, learn, live, and most importantly love? Love. We can always use the excuse we don’t have time, but the truth is, we never will. Make it. Make time to be present in YOUR life.
I also knew that I could learn from others – I observed others behaviors, I watched closely how they reacted to me. I realized that a lot of us live one step ahead of the moment we are experiencing (or trying to), including myself.
God gave us a gift. It is up to the recipient to use it properly and respectfully. Be present. Allow others to fully experience you being; it may be the greatest use of your gift.
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