You may recall this picture from my Instagram feed, a couple of months ago:
My boys are black and white. Even though Washington state law requires private schools to report attendance (via this law), I have a hard time believing that such archaic language exists around mixed-race individuals, garnering parents (or students) to choose between ethnic origins.
So, I raged against the machine, mostly from the confines of my dining room table. And I let forth a fiery, holy indignation on a preschool application, of all things.
It was on a preschool application, of all things.
Right there on the second page, the words “Circle One Only” instructed me to pick a single ethnic origin for my mixed-race sons. I sat at the dining room table, staring at the packet of paperwork before me. Until now, my pen glided through the answers to various questions, to rote information the school needed for licensure purposes.
I shook my head, pen wavering between “black” and “white.” With a brown daddy and a white mama, my sons are equal parts brown and white, African American and Caucasian; sweetly caramel-colored to anyone who throws a glance in their direction.
But how am I supposed to choose for them? What am I supposed to pick on their behalf? And what say do they then have in choosing a side, in having to make a decision between equal parts of a whole?
I hear this is the hardest part about being a mixed-race individual: you’re always caught between two worlds. You’re forever asked to make a choice between your mother and your father, between two seemingly opposite cultures and people groups. You never quite feel at home, because what is home? Who is home? So, of whose origins that gave you life do you choose?
I don’t know if you’re anything like me, but I’m a sojourner on the road to discovery – especially when it comes to issues of race. And this little story (that you can read in its entirety here) is just one example.
In this with you,
So, what is it for you? What produces a fiery, holy indignation in you? Also, if you’re interested in further entering conversations of color (or race), be sure to subscribe to receive emails – and get my ebook about this very thing in your inbox!0