Some years, I’ve been the biggest proponent of saying no.
I’ve cheered for boundaries, and I’ve encouraged others to do the same. I’ve felt like “no” is the most constant word that’s rolled off my lips. I’ve uttered phrases like, “Say no to say a bigger yes…”
And while saying no is 100% true and necessary, we’re turning a corner this year. Maybe it’s because of the move. Maybe it’s because of the newness all around us. Maybe it’s because Osheta and I read Shonda Rhimes’ Year of Yes, and can’t stop thinking about it. Maybe it’s because we’re just in a different season altogether.
Whatever the reason, the HBH (Hot Black Husband) and I are making this the year of yes – with each other, with ourselves and with our children. So today, I’ve got a story of yes for you, and one that involves keeping my phone in the other room and sitting on the floor of the playroom with my children for 15 whole minutes every night.
“Why don’t you ever play with me, Mama?”
My son’s words pierced me, his sentence an emotional dagger to my heart: sometimes, all my kid wants to do is play with me, but play in and of itself isn’t always my go-to way of being with him.
It doesn’t come naturally to me, I suppose.
I heat up water on the stove and cook copious amounts of macaroni and cheese for him and his brother. I wash and dry and fold obscene amounts of laundry for the whole family. I relish in reading books to him, in acting out voices until my throat is hoarse and my legs grow numb under the weight of his body.
But I don’t feel like I’m very good at sitting on the floor, zooming Hotwheels, over and over again. I don’t understand how to properly construct and fly airplanes out of tiny little Legos pieces, or how to puff steam out of tiny wooden trains with Thomas and his friends.
Curious as to the rest of my story? Click here and head on over to iBelieve for my big yes, at least when it comes to my kids.
Cheers to YOUR year of yes!
So, YES: are you a fan, or is it a no year for you? If you’re a parent or a professional hanger-outer of small children, how do you push tasks to the side and say YES?
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