what do you do in your spare time?


This is my friend Lily. She doesn’t normally look that good in pictures, but then again, I don’t either. But one thing I love about this woman is that she’s really, really good at setting boundaries. She’s good at not making work her life, and she’s good at having an answer to the simple question, “What do you do in your spare time?”

So I wrote an article about this question of spare time, and I happen to feature Lily in it. Click here to read it in its entirety!

A couple of weeks ago, I sat with a friend on my couch, a steaming pot of peppermint loose leaf tea on the coffee table in front of us. It was our first meeting as mentor and mentee.

“So,” I asked her, “what do you do in your spare time?” She looked at me and laughed.

“Spare time? What spare time? I hang out with kids—that’s what I do in my spare time!” She smiled and nodded, eager for affirmation, I suppose. Maybe she thought I’d be proud of her choice to knock it out of the ballpark for the kingdom of God. After all, she not only worked in full-time youth ministry, but also volunteered all her extra hours for the same ministry. This was the expectation she placed on herself and on her volunteer leaders.

“Yeah, I get it,” I replied. “But I don’t think it’s the best choice.” The smile faded from her face. I mulled over how best to explain the can of worms I’d just opened. How could I let her know that I’d been there before, that I’d let ministry not just be a lifestyle but my life?

It’s so important for all of us (whether we’re in ministry or not) to have a life outside of work. We need to be able to answer that spare time question. Click here to read the rest of the article!

I’ve got one question for you: what do YOU do in your spare time?


2 thoughts on “what do you do in your spare time?

  1. Recently, I’ve put forth more effort into allowing myself to just be. The past two weekends, I’ve taken one day to just sit on the back porch while my kids play in the sunshine. I either read or I just sit and look around my property (8 acres in the country with hardly any neighbors). I don’t wash dishes, I don’t do laundry, I don’t clean the house, I don’t do anything. Of course, I’ve had moments of feeling guilty, but I push those thoughts from my mind. We all need something, and to deny ourselves just hurts us even more.

    1. Angela, I completely agree. What you describe is what Sundays have become for me …and as a result of resting in my spare time (or taking a sabbatical – whatever you want to call it), I feel that much MORE productive on my days “on.” Keep it up!

      Cara Meredith

      writer, speaker, musician. carameredith.com


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