I’ve been wanting to tell you this for awhile. Perhaps I haven’t done the subject matter justice. Perhaps I should have shown up on your doorstep with a poster board covered in bubble letters and colored with Magic Markers and adorned with stickers, and waved it over my head like John Cusack and his boom box in Say Anything. Perhaps I should have made this the message, weekly, here on the blog, or at least sent you a text so that you’d know I was 100%, cross-my-heart-hope-to-die-serious about these words.
But I didn’t, so you’ll hear it now:
You matter. Your time matters. Who you are and what gives you life matters. And you are so uniquely made, so specifically created, so wonderfully pieced together in your quirky, wacky ways, that there is no one else like you.
So, make time for yourself. Make yourself a priority. Make your free time, those fringe hours every single one of us has in our days, a priority. Because making time for yourself makes a healthier, happier you, and it makes for healthier, happier relationships for those around you.
Now, let me say this: I’m mostly saying this to my Lady Friends. Man-Friends, I mean not to exclude you, and you’re welcome to keep reading, but being on the woman side of the equation, I can’t speak for your kind, at least not today. But, you too are human. And you too absolutely, positively matter – as does your time and your resources and your relationships, and every other fill-in-the-blank you want to tack on here. But I think sometimes we females, whether we’re singled or married, mothers or give-’em-back aunties, working inside the home or making ends meet outside the home, tend to lose sight of ourselves. Sometimes we need a gentle reminder and extra push just a little bit more to make time for us.
So, point A: You matter. Believe it. Receive it.
Point B: Do something about it. Now if you’re a reader, as you know I am and as I know many of you are, you can start by reading Jessica N. Turner’s new book, The Fringe Hours. Because this is not a book about adding more to your plate – doing more and being more and adding more more-more-more into your life – but this is about making time for yourself. Because (point A), you matter.
Not fully convinced of Jessica’s book? Take a look at three of my favorite quotes…
“Stop trying to be everything for everyone and start investing in who and what really matters.”
“Just because something is a good thing doesn’t mean it is good for this moment in your life.This truth has taken a long time for me to accept. But the more I embrace it, the better my life is.”
“You have to figure out in the context of your own priorities what’s important and give yourself to those, because most of us are overrun with the urgent. So we sacrifice the important on the altar of the urgent, and we never get to those things that really matter.”
As you read the book, you’ll be able to pinpoint what gives you life in those fringe hours – and, quite honestly, what doesn’t give you life. Jessica encourages her reader to choose three things – just three things – that fill you up, and to continue to hone in on those things.
For me, my list narrowed down to these three items: cooking, reading and exercising. [I’ll also add writing and watching melodramatic episodes of Parenthood onto the list, but for our purposes I’ll stick with the first three.] So, I’m making an effort to hone in on those life-giving items. I don’t cook every day, but when I do, I like to get my hands dirty, experimenting and churning love into each bite. When I’m holed up with a good book, Life Returns. And when I get an hour at the gym – children in childcare, water in hand – I am set to make it through the rest of the day.
So, friend, whether you read her book or not, make time for yourself. You matter and your time matters, and as a self-declared Advocate for Mattering, you matter, you matter, you matter.
Love and a smattering of mattering kisses,
Cara “I matter too!” Meredith
And now, the moment you’ve all been waiting for: leave a comment, win a copy. ACTUALLY, win one of two copies of the book (sponsored by Jessica’s release team). Giveaway closes Friday, 2/27 at noon. If you don’t want to win a copy, you can still leave a comment and state otherwise. Because, you matter, you matter, you matter! Amen. Otherwise, I’m curious: What three things give you life in your fringe hours?
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